tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post5175252862185592393..comments2023-05-28T02:05:07.525-07:00Comments on The Wilder Coast: The Party LineMelinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16957983479473967228noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-30128926884550234752015-05-31T20:46:42.680-07:002015-05-31T20:46:42.680-07:00Getting married July 11. To the best person I know...Getting married July 11. To the best person I know. And if one more person reminds me that no matter what happens, we'll be married so it will all be fine, I AM GOING TO PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE.<br /><br />Because you know what? Whether or not I will end up married to him WE STILL HAVE TO FUCKING HAVE CHAIRS FOR PEOPLE, OK??<br /><br />Also... guilt and shame for being stressed/grumpy about something that is basically wonderful... does not decrease the stress. Shocker.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18416156603168121692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-26590049970460955512015-05-23T02:57:40.038-07:002015-05-23T02:57:40.038-07:00I was the same about my wedding but it really was ...I was the same about my wedding but it really was amazing.<br /><br />I wanted to run away from all the decisions and stresses of planning. I wanted small and simple but things kept growing. <br /><br />Just before I walked down the isle I felt sick. What I am doing it this massive dress, about to possibly stumble/trip/puke/stutter in front of 70 or so people?? But the moment I walked out I heard gasps and I saw all my best friends and family beaming at me. It wasn't because I was the most beautiful bride ever it was because all my favorite people in the whole world loved me and were in the same place being happy for me. Suddenly I got it and I felt wonderful. Plus you're right, at the end of it all I was married to my best friend. That was about 9 years ago and i'm still happy xSianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15110664157316853976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-24195334898811052202015-05-14T18:44:51.613-07:002015-05-14T18:44:51.613-07:00And congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!! I ...And congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!! I completely understand your anxiety. We are common law with 2 kids and we've been together 18 years. One of the reasons is that I COULD NEVER handle the stress of a wedding day!!! Sending you lots of calming vibes and a fantastic celebration. You are the cutest couple.Jo-skanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-45557239538691033372015-05-14T13:58:16.832-07:002015-05-14T13:58:16.832-07:00Hi Melina! I really really love your blog. You are...Hi Melina! I really really love your blog. You are a very fine writer-so honest, multi-layered, so interesting. Your life is so different from mine, but I am hooked on your adventures and you help me broaden my horizons. A real talent. Question...perhaps I may have missed the explanation, but why have you decided to stop nursing school? <br />Jo-skanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-8337949729286685872015-05-13T14:30:45.936-07:002015-05-13T14:30:45.936-07:00It will be a fabulous celebration, and you will la...It will be a fabulous celebration, and you will laugh when you remember how stressed out you were, how crazy you felt to plan a wedding while finishing school and cramming for work and everything else. Why take on so much? It won't matter. You'll be so proud of yourself when you realize that you stuffed all that worry aside and did it anyway. Breathe and enjoy :)<br /><br />Your honest writing continues to inspire. Thank you!Amandahttp://amandafancy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-84975009267140749322015-05-13T07:40:46.147-07:002015-05-13T07:40:46.147-07:00I'll come to your lovely Vermont wedding if yo...I'll come to your lovely Vermont wedding if your silly friends don't. In all honesty, my law partner didn't attend my wedding and I haven't really forgiven it, but my best friend who couldn't make it, I forget she wasn't there, because the hole in my wedding party was filled with her spirit and love. I called the season you are in, The Season of my Wedding Hysteria. It became acceptable to call my Mom at 4 in the morning to discuss something I was stressing about, to spend HUNDREDS on postage, and I skipped the bachelorette party thing and the engagement party thing, and life was still insane, but our friends still tell us stories of all the fun they had. I had fun, but it really brought out the controlling side of me. I'm happy with the memories, and glad it is over. Still in love with my groom and honeymooning, after almost 6 years. That's what matters, and from the sound of it, that is what you'll get with David.meg@ourwaytoeat.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650143013461229657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-37783908879712124652015-05-12T21:02:20.682-07:002015-05-12T21:02:20.682-07:00Oh Melina! It was almost 5 summers ago when James...Oh Melina! It was almost 5 summers ago when James and I got married, but when we did, the site A Practical Wedding really helped me- see what you think. They have expanded a bunch since then, but something about reading those essays really calmed me down when planning our wedding and helped me focus on US and making a celebration that reflected us, making me more creative with the whole thing. I hear you on the stress and anxiety- there were so many considerations that I stayed up late thinking about- the bridesmaids, who to invite, having organic food, good music, dessert... and trying to make everyone feel included who wanted to be. We ended up not inviting some people- some high school friends & more recent acquaintances, mainly because it was at my Grandparent's and I didn't want to overwhelm my family with tons of people. Then, when we set up chairs for the ceremony, we had empty rows. It has always bugged me that I didn't just invite everyone as the people pleaser I am, or at least do my math on the chairs. Just one of those things ... It was also nice to feel like I connected a little with everyone there that night. the fact that you two are willing to do this TOGETHER is amazing and it's just one big hurdle which makes you stronger for all of life's other challenges along your road of life together. xoEmily Hackethornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07133795313139279232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-59216662121191372632015-05-12T20:52:16.415-07:002015-05-12T20:52:16.415-07:00Your wedding is going to be wonderful because it i...Your wedding is going to be wonderful because it is going to be you and David. Everything will fall into place around you. when I hit my budget I literally stopped planning even though there were things we needed, my grandpa ended up at Stanford with emergency surgery days before and missed the wedding but it was great anyways. I got my guy. all the right people will be there!carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15719611530538006893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-19101808738198649842015-05-12T20:22:03.859-07:002015-05-12T20:22:03.859-07:00that about sums it up. <3that about sums it up. <3colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13106381029729255351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-79792940085885996662015-05-12T16:30:36.650-07:002015-05-12T16:30:36.650-07:00Your honesty slays me. I can't get enough of y...Your honesty slays me. I can't get enough of your posts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-52850014267037513622015-05-12T15:28:24.158-07:002015-05-12T15:28:24.158-07:00You just made me realize why I dont plan many part...You just made me realize why I dont plan many parties! Anxiety. <br /><br />In my mind I'm super social, throwing fun amazing parties, but in reality I'm no where close. <br /><br />The morning of the wedding I literally said out loud "fuck-it, I'm going to enjoy my wedding no matter what happens" and I truly enjoyed it! <br /><br />Try to enjoy and write about all of it, anxiety, frustration, fun, cake, all of it. Srihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01022766956861831195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-11069662034676510772015-05-12T11:59:26.801-07:002015-05-12T11:59:26.801-07:00I will come, and there could be nothing but you an...I will come, and there could be nothing but you and me and your parents and David and a little bit of food and a lot of beer and we'll all still be deliriously happy and remember it as the best day ever! xo.(P.S. Love your honesty, always.)Anna Lola Vnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-24871494018758190092015-05-12T11:15:19.412-07:002015-05-12T11:15:19.412-07:00Wedding planning is the worst. I got married last ...Wedding planning is the worst. I got married last summer with a very casual ceremony and reception...I wanted it easy and casual to avoid the stress and anxiety. And yet? There was still SO much stress and anxiety! What if people don't come? What if they think the party is lame? What if they are bored? What if it's all terrible?? Well, it turned out to be the best day of my life. Everything went smoothly and many people told me it was the most fun wedding they had ever been to. So, from one anxious person to another, you already know we fret over things that aren't worth fretting over. It will be a great day and you'll have a blast. But...I understand the anxiety anyway. Wishing you the best!Jen Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436569833867017062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-90167609163309685252015-05-12T11:00:44.039-07:002015-05-12T11:00:44.039-07:00I feel like insecurities come out of nowhere, and ...I feel like insecurities come out of nowhere, and it is impossible to anticipate them. That being said. I've thrown a lot of parties. Some of the best ones have had the fewest guests. Quantity certainly isn't the end all be all. I will say something to keep in mind during the whole planning process. Things will go wrong. And those will be the most memorable. When I graduated from college, I had family flying in from everywhere. A big dinner was planned to celebrate. As we were driving to the restaurant, a severe storm hit and knocked out the power. Trees were blocking roads. It was a disaster. Luck had it that the restaurant had a wood fire grill and said they could still serve us. By candlelight, my closest family and friends drank an insane amount of alcohol, and literally had the best night of our lives. Embrace this journey. The good and bad. It should be fun. The only expectations you have to meet are your own. I can't wait to see pictures. I know it will beautiful!Jaimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08750909266343803054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-23240242872892856942015-05-12T10:27:15.618-07:002015-05-12T10:27:15.618-07:00Colleen is giving you true though harsh advice. I ...Colleen is giving you true though harsh advice. I had to decline nearly every wedding invitation I received this summer....including one I desperately wanted to attend since I love that crazy girl (even though she is a staunch republican) because going into debt to attend weddings seems a bit dumb. It doesn't mean people don't love you. Good luck with the planning and anxiety - it does seem to be an awful lot of hullabaloo to wrangle! Kirsten Gardnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288362311661961844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593256949311598537.post-91847992856810659342015-05-12T10:05:16.191-07:002015-05-12T10:05:16.191-07:00Ah yes, the anxiety surrounding The Wedding. I kne...Ah yes, the anxiety surrounding The Wedding. I knew my husband was the one when he said to me in the first week of us even dating and Talking that he wanted to get married on an island in the Caribbean. It was the best wedding I could've even imagined. No shoes allowed, a simple but beautiful white dress, just me and him and our closest friend vacation couple in Barbados. And then a quick change and under the water 80 feet we went. Hands down, the best day of my life. And yes, being married to your best friend is absolutely worth it. Abso-fucking-lutely. Good luck, and xanax/valium your way through it ;)Casey Tobynoreply@blogger.com